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Darren Ross

Darren James Ross, usually called D by his brother, was a Black American from Portland, Oregon, born on December 25, 2001. He was the youngest of David and Dana Ross’s three sons. His middle brother, Danny, became his primary caregiver during childhood and his legal guardian in early 2014 after an investigation established that the parental home was unsafe.

Darren grew up as the overlooked child in a family that favored his oldest brother, Drake, and scapegoated Danny. He became observant, serious, fiercely loyal, and protective, but he was not solemn all the time. Baseball, competition, and his friendships with Gabe Brooks and Zoey gave him room to be loud, playful, and unmistakably young.

He lived with generalized anxiety disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, asthma, migraine, recurrent pain and swelling in his knees and ankles, and unusual sensitivity to medication. During the 2013–2014 school year, he was already the largest child in his grade: five feet four inches and approximately 160 pounds at the start of sixth grade, followed by several more inches of growth by the end of the year. At full adult height, he was approximately six feet two to six feet three with the same broad build.

Zoey entered Darren and Gabe’s friendship in sixth grade. She and Darren began dating when she was thirteen and he was fourteen, remained together through high school, and eventually married. Zoey became Zoey Linnea Ross, and their son, Daniel James “DJ” Ross, carried Darren’s middle name and Danny’s first name.

Early Life and Family Background

The Youngest Ross Son

Darren was born in Portland six years after Danny and approximately eight years after Drake. The household organized the boys into starkly unequal roles. Drake was the favored son who received new clothing, furniture, spending money, and parental approval. Danny received blame and ridicule. Darren was frequently overlooked and given Drake’s castoffs rather than possessions chosen for him.

David’s drinking and explosive behavior made the home unpredictable. Darren learned to listen for changes in his father’s mood, minimize his own presence, and anticipate conflict before it reached him. Dana criticized Darren’s room, clothing, appearance, and preferences while failing to protect him and Danny from David. Her response taught Darren that wanting something for himself could invite shame.

David and Drake sometimes drew Darren into taunting Danny or helping drag him down. Darren usually resisted in small, indirect ways until one of Danny’s severe cyclic-vomiting-syndrome crises made the danger impossible to dismiss. After that scare, Darren became openly protective of Danny. The earlier participation remained a source of guilt, while the change became one of the foundations of his later loyalty.

Dana later left David and divorced him. The family rupture did not restore a safe parental relationship for Darren; Danny and the chosen family around the brothers remained his dependable home.

Danny as Caregiver

From Darren’s earliest years, Danny performed much of the parenting that David and Dana did not. Darren went to him when he was frightened, sick, hurt, or in need of comfort. Danny made sure he ate, got to school, had clothing, and knew that someone considered him worth protecting.

Darren called Danny’s apartment home before a court made that arrangement official. Their six-year age gap made their relationship visibly unequal in age but reciprocal in care. Danny carried the legal, financial, and practical responsibility; Darren watched Danny’s food, medication, temperature, sleep, pain, and early signs of illness with a vigilance no child should have needed.

Education and Baseball

Darren met Gabe in tee-ball around 2006–2007. He played catcher through fifth grade, then moved to first base when the sustained crouch and quick rises of catching became too painful for his knees and ankles. At first base, his reach, spatial awareness, quick reactions, and ability to read the infield made his size an advantage.

Darren began sixth grade in fall 2013. His Christmas birthday made him eleven at the beginning of that school year and twelve after December 25. He earned solid grades through consistency, completed his homework reliably, and was well liked by his teachers. At the same age, he was more academically focused than Danny had been while living with unrecognized and unsupported learning and attention differences.

The custody case unfolded across Darren’s sixth-grade year. He continued attending school and maintaining his work while living with the fear that the court might return him to his parents. His competence at school did not mean that the circumstances were easy; it was one of the ways he kept a part of his life predictable.

He also helped Coach Ramirez work with younger players on Saturdays. Darren positioned children’s hands on bats, demonstrated grips, fielded imperfect throws without embarrassment, and corrected mistakes patiently. The younger players responded to his steadiness, and the work gave him an early experience of leadership that did not depend on intimidation.

Coaching revealed patience and teaching ability Darren had not recognized in himself. Being a reliable teammate, a steady friend to Gabe and Zoey, and a protective presence for Danny likewise showed him that he could contribute rather than only receive help. These experiences challenged his place as the overlooked youngest son. He began to see himself as someone capable of leadership and positive influence, which gave him reason to keep trying and growing.

Personality

Protective Loyalty

Darren’s loyalty was practical. He noticed whether Danny had eaten, whether his hands were trembling, whether he was cold, whether he had taken his medication, and whether a casual reassurance matched what his body was doing. He did not accept Danny’s deflections merely because they were meant to comfort him.

That attention extended to other people. Darren distinguished between adults who performed concern and adults who reliably showed up. He trusted actions, consistency, and clear follow-through more readily than promises. This made the Thomas family, Renee Johnson, Marcus Johnson, Bambi, Martha, and Coach Ramirez important not simply because they were kind, but because their care was concrete.

Darren could become protective of people, spaces, possessions, and routines without trying to control them. His fear sometimes surfaced first as sharpness or quick anger, particularly when he believed Danny was concealing a medical problem. His bluntness was not cruelty; it was the direct communication of a frightened child who had learned that minimizing danger could have consequences.

Seriousness and Play

Darren’s resting seriousness and large body led adults to read him as older than he was. Around Gabe and Zoey, the mismatch disappeared. He made ordinary tasks into competitions, teased them, laughed until his sides hurt, and joined the chaos of jumping on his new mattress during move-in day. He and Gabe shared years of inside jokes and could also sit together without needing to fill the silence.

His steadiness made him the bridge in the three-person friendship. Gabe brought humor and motion; Zoey brought intensity and strategy; Darren could understand both without asking either to become someone else. That role did not erase his own silliness, temper, fear, or need for care.

Worth, Safety, and Choice

Darren understood family through conduct rather than biology. David and Dana were his parents, but Danny raised him; the people who helped the brothers survive the custody case became family because they chose responsibility and kept choosing it.

He associated safety with concrete experiences: food he could eat without scrutiny, rules that did not change with an adult’s mood, a door he could close, objects selected for him, and people who returned when they said they would. His first new bedroom furniture mattered because it was the first material evidence that his taste, comfort, and place in a household warranted investment.

Protecting Danny and keeping them together organized much of Darren’s childhood. He tried to give his parents no ammunition during the custody case, helped through Danny’s flares, and testified despite his fear. Alongside love and loyalty was the belief that he had to deserve what Danny sacrificed for him. He minimized his own needs and tried to help rather than add another demand to a brother who was already struggling.

Darren feared that his anxiety, constant monitoring, and need for reassurance could exhaust or break Danny, or that dependence on him could eventually drive him away. The same fear extended to other people: wanting care might drive them away. He hid struggles, tried to manage alone, and felt guilty about needing emotional support as well as ordinary possessions. He could understand that he was the child and still feel responsible for making himself easy to care for.

Under those fears lay the conviction that he was not enough: not smart, strong, mature, healthy, or good enough to deserve the life Danny was fighting to give him. David and Dana’s unequal treatment had taught him that Drake possessed something that made him worth choosing and Darren did not. Guardianship and a new bedroom could begin to challenge that belief, but changing it required years of consistent evidence that his worth did not depend on perfection, usefulness, or how little trouble he caused.

Speech and Communication

Darren spoke African American English naturally with Danny, Gabe, Zoey, and other people with whom he felt at home. He code-switched more readily than Danny, using a more formal register with teachers, court personnel, and unfamiliar adults. The shifts were contextual and deliberate rather than evidence that one register was more authentic than another.

At eleven and twelve, Darren’s voice was already deepening and breaking. It could sound older when steady, then crack when he became excited, frightened, or emotionally overwhelmed. Together with his size and serious expression, the lower register contributed to adults expecting more maturity from him than his age warranted.

Darren’s speech with Danny was economical and direct. “You barely ate any,” “Don’t change the subject,” and “I know exactly what you doin’” were not decorative tough talk; they were attempts to make his brother acknowledge what Darren could already see. With his friends, the same voice loosened into challenges, jokes, nicknames, and easy argument.

Personal Philosophy or Beliefs

Darren valued direct truth because lies, concealment, and pretense had made his parents’ household unsafe. Naming what was happening mattered more to him than maintaining a comfortable appearance. He wanted adults to tell him the truth even when it hurt, and he resisted Danny’s attempts to protect him through deflection because he needed an accurate account of what they were facing.

The custody process also taught him that official systems did not reliably protect people simply because protection was their stated purpose. Adults had missed earlier opportunities to report or recognize the danger; courts moved slowly while he still needed safety, and school competence could conceal extraordinary distress. He began to understand that those systems often required advocacy and pressure to respond to suffering that could not wait for their ordinary timelines.

Winning guardianship and moving into the apartment gave Darren evidence that a different future could be built. Crying beside Danny after move-in day was part of that recognition: they had fought, people had helped, and their circumstances had actually changed. His hope that trauma did not have to define the rest of his life remained vulnerable to setbacks and new crises. Repeated experiences of safety and chosen-family care allowed it to grow.

Health, Disability, and Embodiment

Generalized Anxiety Disorder and PTSD

Darren’s generalized anxiety disorder involved persistent threat-scanning and rapid catastrophizing, especially when Danny was late, sleeping unusually deeply, or unreachable by phone. His body could move into panic before he had enough information to assess what was happening. His breathing became fast and shallow, his chest tightened, nausea rose hard enough to keep him from eating or make him fear he would vomit, and his thoughts fixed on the possibility that Danny was dying.

During one baseball practice, Danny could not be reached. Darren’s panic escalated until he collapsed and hyperventilated. The fear was disproportionate to a missed call but not detached from his history: Danny had repeatedly become dangerously ill, and Darren had learned that an ordinary silence could precede a medical emergency.

Darren also had PTSD connected to the abuse in the Ross home and frightening experiences of Danny’s illness. A vivid memory of finding Danny half-conscious in a bathtub returned as a flashback during a later panic attack. At those times the breathlessness came from panic rather than asthma, although distinguishing the sensations could itself be frightening.

Raised voices and authoritative men could trigger automatic protective responses. Darren sat straighter, watched more closely, and prepared to make himself unobjectionable even around Marshall Thomas, who had consistently treated him with care. He understood intellectually that Marshall was safe before his nervous system learned the same lesson.

Anxiety also affected sleep. Some nights he remained awake or woke from nightmares because he was monitoring Danny or rehearsing possible emergencies. When safety and exhaustion finally allowed him to let go, he could sleep extremely deeply and snore loudly. He sometimes slept in Danny’s room because being near enough to hear him breathe made rest possible.

Asthma and Medication Sensitivity

Darren’s asthma was not recognized until a respiratory illness caused his first severe attack in 2013 and required emergency care. Afterward, he had a rescue inhaler and a nebulizer for more sustained treatment during flares.

Medication affected Darren more unpredictably than his size suggested. His sensitivity meant that treatment changes required attention to side effects and his individual response.

Migraine

Darren experienced migraine before the late-2013 attack that opened the custody investigation. Dana had previously responded to episodes with over-the-counter pain medicine and instructions to rest rather than arranging adequate evaluation.

During the severe late-2013 attack, Darren called Danny for help. Danny called 911 and rushed to the parental home, but Darren lost consciousness before the medics arrived. David erupted at Danny in front of the emergency responders. A medic’s report, followed by a second report from Darren’s pediatric neurologist, Dr. Ryan Coleman, exposed the wider household danger and began the child-welfare case.

Main article: Darren’s Migraine and David’s Explosion (2013)

Knee and Ankle Pain

Darren had recurrent pain and visible swelling in his knees and ankles, particularly after baseball practice and long days on his feet. The symptoms changed how he used his body and were the practical reason he stopped catching and moved to first base.

He moved deliberately when pain was high, limited positions that required prolonged crouching, and remained active through adaptation rather than pretending that pain was absent. His large frame and slow, careful movements were sometimes misread as clumsiness, laziness, or threat.

Relationship to His Body

Adults’ tendency to treat a large Black boy as older shaped how carefully Darren managed his expression, speech, and physical space.

Darren moved with awareness of his size, his joints, and the assumptions other people made about him. He calibrated his reach rather than grabbing, watched the edges of furniture and doorways, and tried not to overwhelm smaller people. This care was both a practical response to pain and a learned effort to make a large Black body appear nonthreatening.

He feared his own body becoming unreliable through panic, asthma flares, or joint pain that interrupted ordinary activity. Collapsing at baseball practice was frightening and humiliating to him: his breathing and movement would not come back under control through determination, and adults had to intervene in front of other people. Such episodes reinforced his vulnerability and added fear of the next crisis to the fear that had already overwhelmed him.

Dana’s criticism left Darren feeling guilty about clothes, grooming, possessions, and other preferences. The years after guardianship required him to learn that wanting to look put together or choose what surrounded him was neither shallow nor burdensome.

During the custody period, Darren was growing his hair longer on top and exploring its natural texture while keeping it neat. The choice mattered after years in which cost and Dana’s preferences had determined his haircuts.

Food in Danny’s apartment was uncomplicated in a way it had not been under Dana’s scrutiny. Darren could snack when he was hungry, finish Danny’s leftovers, and make waffles covered in syrup and whipped cream without being shamed for appetite or preference.

Physical Characteristics and Presentation

Build and Growth

Darren was approximately five feet four inches and 160 pounds at the beginning of sixth grade, already broad and heavyset. He grew several additional inches across the 2013–2014 school year and was the largest child in his grade. As an adult, he reached approximately six feet two to six feet three and retained the big, broad frame that distinguished him physically from Danny’s equally tall but wiry build.

His face was handsome and usually serious at rest. His actual age became clearer when he smiled, became absorbed in a game, or his changing voice cracked.

Skin, Hair, and Hands

Darren had a warm-brown complexion with golden undertones, close enough to Danny’s coloring that the family resemblance was visible. Physical activity brought more warmth into his face; illness, exhaustion, and sustained stress made his complexion look flatter and tired.

His hands were already large at twelve, with broad palms and thick fingers. At first base they were strong, quick, and sure enough to scoop low throws and reach for wide ones. With household objects and younger players, he used them carefully and deliberately. During the move-in-day breakdown, he held Danny’s narrower hand with a grip that was both careful and fierce.

Movement, Clothing, and Grooming

He typically wore hoodies, jeans, and sneakers sturdy enough for school and baseball. The clothes were practical and unflashy, but he cared about fit and presentation. He folded his clothes, put away his shoes, and kept his belongings cleaner and more orderly than Danny did. His sneakers wore down quickly through baseball, walking, and the realities of a household with limited money for replacements.

Home, Tastes, and Daily Life

The Brothers’ Apartment

After Danny won guardianship in early 2014, the brothers moved into a two-bedroom Portland apartment. Danny took Darren shopping and let him choose a new dark-wood bed, dresser, and nightstand. The pieces belonged to Darren first; none had passed through Drake or been rescued for him after someone else discarded them.

The Thomas family supplied blue baseball-themed bedding. Darren chose a city-skyline poster, Derek Jeter in mid-swing, and a New York Yankees logo for the walls. Hanging them with Danny turned an empty room into a place marked by Darren’s own taste.

The move itself became a community event. Marcus and Renee Johnson, Bambi, Coach Ramirez, Gabe, Zoey, the Thomas family, and other baseball players carried furniture, brought food, and filled the apartment with noise. Darren predicted that they would need more pizza and immediately tried to turn carrying boxes into a competition.

After the helpers left, Darren found Danny crying in the bathroom. Danny’s tears gave Darren permission to cry too. The brothers sat shoulder to shoulder, held hands, and acknowledged that the home finally belonged to them rather than to their parents’ rules.

Main article: Danny and Darren Move-In Day (2014)

Food and Ordinary Freedom

The kitchen in Danny’s apartment commonly held Doritos, Pepsi, Hot Cheetos, Gushers, Goldfish, and the waffle iron Renee gave them.

Darren often returned from practice ravenous. He noticed when Danny offered up food because he genuinely could not eat and when “I’m full” was a deflection. He usually finished the food anyway, then continued asking whether Danny had taken his medication or needed to rest.

His routines combined school, baseball, Saturday coaching, time with Gabe and Zoey, household chores, and monitoring Danny. After move-in day, sleeping late, inviting friends over, and deciding where to put his own belongings became ordinary experiences that quietly taught him he was allowed to occupy a home.

Main article: 2013–2014 Portland Custody Battle

The late-2013 migraine emergency led to reports from an emergency medic and Dr. Ryan Coleman. The ensuing investigation documented abuse, neglect, Darren’s fear of David, Danny’s longstanding caregiving, and the support network available to the brothers.

Darren consistently told guardian ad litem Marisol Vega that he felt safe with Danny and unsafe in his parents’ home. At the first contested hearing in early 2014, he said the same thing directly to the court while David was present. Dr. Coleman and Marcus Johnson also testified.

Danny entered the hearing in a severe cyclic-vomiting-syndrome flare. He vomited into a wastebasket while David’s attorney argued that illness made him unfit to care for Darren, then became dizzy, lost consciousness, and required hospitalization. The hearing was adjourned. Darren remained at Danny’s apartment under Renee Johnson’s approved supervision, with Marcus helping until Danny returned.

The court ultimately appointed Danny as Darren’s legal guardian and limited David and Dana to supervised contact. The ruling formalized a parental relationship that had existed for years.

Family and Core Relationships

David Ross and Dana Ross

David’s explosive abuse and alcohol use made Darren fear him. Dana’s criticism, emotional volatility, and failure to intervene made her an active part of the unsafe household rather than a neutral bystander. Both opposed Danny’s petition despite Darren’s direct statement that he did not feel safe with them.

Dana eventually left and divorced David. That separation did not undo the brothers’ childhood or replace the safe family Darren had built elsewhere.

Drake Ross

Drake was Darren’s oldest brother and the favored child in the Ross household. He had new possessions, parental approval, and freedom that Danny and Darren did not. He also joined David in ridiculing Danny and helped pressure Darren into participating.

Darren’s eventual refusal to join them and open defense of Danny widened the distance between him and Drake. Darren did not need to hate Drake for the unequal treatment and active cruelty to make a close relationship impossible.

He also feared becoming like Drake: accepting unequal treatment as natural, taking what he wanted without noticing who went without, or staying silent while someone else suffered. Darren understood that being favored had not been Drake’s choice, but feared the complacency and complicity that could follow it. That fear made him attentive to other people’s needs, willing to share, and wary of treating an advantage as something he was simply owed.

Danny Ross

Main article: Danny Ross and Darren Ross

Danny was Darren’s brother, parent figure, protector, and legal guardian. Darren trusted him more completely than any other person and feared losing him with an intensity rooted in repeated medical crises and the knowledge that Danny was his only safe biological family.

Their shared home did not eliminate role reversal. Darren continued checking Danny’s food and medication and pushing him to admit when he felt ill. Danny continued insisting that Darren was not a burden and that caring for him was a choice.

When Caleb’s extensive medical needs became apparent and Danny’s own health made the combined load increasingly difficult, Darren chose to move into Marshall and Lydia Thomas’s home at sixteen. Danny and Jess insisted that he had never been in the way. Darren nevertheless wanted to reduce Danny’s felt responsibility and give Danny, Jess, and Caleb space. He remained frequently present in Danny’s home, and Danny remained his legal guardian.

Danny died from a brain aneurysm in 2022, when Darren was twenty. The death was unrelated to cyclic vomiting syndrome. Darren never fully recovered from losing the person who had raised him, although Zoey, Gabe, therapy, and the family he built supported him in learning to live with the loss.

Danny’s thirty-eight-track For Darren playlist remained one of the personal records of how deliberately he loved and understood his brother.

Jess Ross and Caleb Ross

Jess repeatedly told Darren that he remained part of the family after Caleb’s birth. Darren’s move to the Thomas home was his own attempt to ease pressure, not a rejection by Jess or Danny.

Caleb was Darren’s nephew. His profound medical and support needs changed the practical demands on the household, but they did not make Darren resent him. Darren understood that Danny’s exhaustion came from an impossible accumulation of responsibilities rather than from either child being unwanted.

Darren remained present after Danny’s death, the exception to Caleb’s limited relationship with the wider Ross family. He visited when he could, made video calls, sent birthday and holiday gifts, and told Caleb stories about Danny. Having known what it meant to be unseen by his own family, he refused to let his nephew lose that paternal connection. Caleb’s face recalled Danny while his broad, heavyset frame resembled Darren’s, giving his uncle a living connection to his brother without making Caleb a substitute for him.

Friendship, Love, and Chosen Family

Gabe Brooks

Main article: Darren Ross and Gabe Brooks

Gabe had been Darren’s best friend since tee-ball. He knew how to sit beside Darren without demanding disclosure and how to use humor without pretending that a crisis was unimportant. Darren trusted him with the parts of adolescence that had nothing to do with court, illness, or survival.

The friendship continued into adulthood. Gabe knew Danny and understood the scale of Darren’s loss in 2022, then remained present without making grief the only subject of their bond.

Zoey Linnea Ross

Main article: Darren Ross and Zoey Thomas

Zoey, born January 1, 2003, skipped a grade and joined Darren and Gabe in sixth grade during 2013–2014. She refused to treat Darren as fragile, shameful, or defined by his parents’ household. Her directness and planning could be intense; Darren valued both and often translated between her urgency and Gabe’s more relaxed approach.

They began dating when Zoey was thirteen and Darren was fourteen. By the time Zoey was fifteen and Darren sixteen, the relationship was well established, and Marshall and Lydia understood that Darren was a lasting part of their daughter’s life. Their willingness to let him move into the family home deepened an already long-standing bond rather than creating it.

Zoey became Darren’s wife and took the name Zoey Linnea Ross. She became a medical-malpractice attorney and later founded Ross and Associates in her thirties. Darren was openly proud of her work and attentive to the cases and institutional failures she discussed with him.

Their son, Daniel James “DJ” Ross, was named with Danny and Darren in mind: Daniel for Danny, James for Darren, and DJ as his own everyday name.

Zoey supported Darren after Danny’s death without treating grief as something she could fix or asking him to leave it behind. Marriage changed the shape of the childhood trio, but Zoey, Darren, and Gabe remained family to one another.

Marshall and Lydia Thomas

Marshall and Lydia Thomas welcomed Darren during the custody case. At a family dinner, Marshall said that Danny was stepping up for him. Hearing an adult man recognize Danny’s care overwhelmed Darren. He went to the bathroom and cried in private, unsure why the validation had affected him so strongly. Zoey came to the door, gave him time, and made him laugh by pointing out that the household had two other bathrooms.

The Thomases later helped paint the brothers’ apartment and supplied Darren’s bedding. When Darren needed a home at sixteen, Lydia accepted his move immediately. Marshall agreed with clear household expectations, which Darren followed precisely. Predictable rules felt safe because they did not change according to anger or whim. Taking him into their home made their long-standing support familial.

Wider Chosen Family

Marcus and Renee Johnson, Bambi, Martha, Coach Ramirez, and the Thomas family formed the adult network around Danny and Darren. Marcus testified and helped during Danny’s hospitalization; Renee served as Darren’s court-approved supervisor; Bambi’s flexibility helped Danny keep working; Martha fed the brothers without humiliation; and Coach Ramirez trusted Darren with younger children.

In January 2014, Zoey brought newly transferred Rachel Williams to the group’s lunch table. Darren welcomed Rachel into the first peer group she had after years of home education.

Main article: Rachel Williams’s First Day at Portland Public School (January 2014) - Event

Memorable Quotes

“Man, you ain’t gotta do all that.”

(To Danny, with concern about how hard he was pushing himself)

“I know exactly what you doin’.”

(To Danny, identifying an attempt to redirect concern during a conversation about Danny’s health.)

“You for real right now?”

(To Danny, refusing a reassurance that did not fit what Darren observed.)

“Told you we’d need more pizza.”

(During the brothers’ move into their apartment.)

“Bet I can get three boxes at once.”

(Challenging Gabe Brooks during the brothers’ move.)

“Good thing they’re mine, then.”

(Responding to Danny’s horror at his syrup-and-whipped-cream waffles on the brothers’ first morning in the apartment.)

“You barely ate any.”

(To Danny after he tried to give Darren the rest of his food.)

“Don’t change the subject.”

(Stopping Danny from redirecting a question about his health.)

“Z, you really gonna tell Coach?”

(To Zoey during their early friendship)

“Danny? Are you—”

(Trying to ask whether Danny was all right during an emotionally charged moment)

“I can’t—I can’t lose you… You’re all I got. I can’t—”

(During a panic attack after Danny could not be reached.)

“Thank God.”

(Echoing Danny’s gratitude that their first home was finally theirs.)

“It’s ours.”

(To himself on the first night in the apartment.)

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